Literary Pixie

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg really helped me improve my communication skills and get my needs met.

Nonviolent Communication is a way of being in the world that has the purpose is to serve life and to create connection in such a way that everyone’s needs can be met through natural care.

Here are the resources that helped me!

Sentence Frame

When you do ___, I feel ___ because my need of ___ is ___. Next time, could you please____? Thank you.

List of Feelings

Feelings when needs are met	Feelings when needs are not met
adventurous affectionate alive calm confident content curious delighted energetic engaged excited fascinated friendly glad happy hopeful interested joyful loving moved peaceful playful relaxed satisfied tender thrilled warm	agitated alarmed ambivalent angry annoyed anxious confused despairing devastated disconnected discouraged embarrassed exasperated flustered grief heartbroken helpless hopless impatient irritated lonely longing nervous overwhelmed protective sad scared stressed suspicious tense terrified torn troubled

List of Needs

AUTONOMY
choice
dignity
freedom
independence
self-expression
space
spontaneity

CONNECTION
acceptance
affection
appreciation
authenticity
belonging
care
closeness
communication
communion
community
companionship
compassion
consideration
empathy
friendship
inclusion
inspiration
integrity
intimacy
love
mutuality
nurturing
partnership
presence
respect/self-respect
security
self-acceptance
self-care

CONNECTION(continued)
self-connection
self-expression
shared reality
stability
support
to know and be known
to see and be seen
trust
understanding
warmth

MEANING
awareness
celebration
challenge
clarity
competence
consciousness
contribution
creativity
discovery
efficiency
effectiveness
growth
integration
integrity
learning
mourning
movement
participation
perspective
presence
progress
purpose
self-expression
stimulation
understanding

PEACE
acceptance
balance
beauty
communion
ease
equanimity
faith
harmony
hope
order
peace-of-mind
space

PHYSICAL
WELL-BEING
air
care
comfort
food
movement/exercise
rest/sleep
safety (physical)
self-care
sexual expression
shelter
touch
water

PLAY
adventure
excitement
fun
humor
joy
relaxation
stimulation

(From NYC Nonviolent Communication)