Dear Sister,
You are going to have crushes. You already do – shout out Sean. I had crushes. I did not do anything about them, but I should have. If you have a crush, go for it. The worst they can do is say no, but then you can move on. I built these boys up into unreal romantic characters. And I said no to boys before getting to know them. I didn’t even give them a chance. Just be nice and friendly, and give people a chance to be nice and friendly.
My first in high school, well I had a lot of crushes. I liked the basketball players. And I liked Andrew. He was the first real crush and my first real date. I realized while on the date that I had never been alone with a boy before that I wasn’t related to. That was quite a panic. I said a lot of stupid things, and I was trying to flirt – but it was so hard. I said, ‘what are you thinking?’ in a really deep way, but I don’t think it worked. And afterwards he just laughed about it with Molly. I really should have realized he was a jerk there, but instead I decided that I had a huge crush on him for the next seven years. Isn’t that sad? I really should stop talking to him. See this is what crushes do- that’s why you have to not build them up in to monuments – they only let you down.
You have to confront them, or else they will be like mind blocks, and you’ll just keep thinking, ‘at our ten year alumni meeting, that’s when it will happen’ because you will be all cool and awesome then, not like in High School. But dude. You’re the shit in high school and the shit out of high school. As long as you are yourself, you are the coolest person in the room.
As Oscar Wilde says, the hardest thing is to be yourself. And as someone else said, Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. That’s all dating and crushes is – just being yourself with someone else.
Love,
Sammy
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