By Sammy Ginsberg
In June of 2025, I started Stability Sammy, a project to document and support me becoming stable in all forms: housing; lifestyle & health; purpose & contribution; relationships; systemic societal supports; money.
It has been a fucking journey, and clearly, I am still not super stable as I there is a high chance that I’m moving in the Fall! Lol.
However, certain key parts of my life have stabilized allowing me the ability to set boundaries and update my commitments.
I know deeply the kind of lifestyle I need in order to maintain my health; I know what my purpose and contribution is in this life and I am taking active steps towards that vision!; I know that if I need money, I can always teach!
Everything else is in flux as I develop healthy, compatible relationships to support me in practicing my lifestyle needs and doing my purpose-driven work.
I’m sorry if our lives are no longer compatible. I recently had an epiphany that how much you love, like, or care about someone is completely separate from how compatible your lives are!
On top of that, compatibility is constantly changing. I could be having a hard week at work, and need to spend more time with my colleagues or getting my deadlines done; and thus, I don’t have much energy for going to the club or listening to what’s going on with you.
Life is like that! It has nothing to do with your personal value or how much you care about someone.
From June 2025 to June 2026 I had seven different jobs each one changing my entire routine and needing to develop supportive relationships with over 300 people that I worked with in person on almost a day to day basis.
Before that I held the same job for four years.
If you are wondering why I’m slow to respond, chaotic, or not able to drive to you as often or work through things, this is why.
I appreciate your patience and grace while I navigate this transition.
I wish I could tell you it was over, but it’s not.
I think it’s time we start accepting that change is constant; making mistakes and having flaws is what makes us beautifully human; and conflict is not only part of life, but necessary for building trust and learning who we are, what we care about, and what we value.
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